Vows and Rings


After the sermon, reading and optional prayer, the next item in the ceremony order is the exchange of vows. Most vows are delivered by your wedding minister; the bride and/or groom simply repeat, a few words at a time (be sure to ask your officiant to do this for you!). Below are three sets of vows you may choose from. If you are writing your own marriage, commitment, or renewal of vows, you may want to say these more “standard” vows first, then say your own special words right afterwards. We advise against memorizing your vows. Writing them down and having them available to read at the big moment is perfect protection against your brain going into vapor lock! Remember, keep it simple. Let the officiant deliver your vows to you loud and clear; you can speak softly to your partner.

I, Rev. Chris Mohr, personally promise to “cover” for you during the vows ceremony. I carry facial tissue if either of you begins to cry; I have even helped people with major stuttering issues get through their vows beautifully.

________________, do you take ______________ to be your husband/partner, to love him/her, to cherish him/her, and to continually bestow upon him/her your heart’s deepest devotion? {I do.}

And _____________________________, do you take _________________ to be your wife/partner, to love her/him, to cherish her/him, and to continually bestow upon her/him your heart’s deepest devotion? {I do.}

Please join hands, face one another and repeat after me: __________, you are my beloved, to love and to cherish, and to have and to hold, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sickness and in health, in sadness and in joy, to share our lives together, from this day forward. (Both partners repeat these vows individually).

Alternative vows

(These can be used after the “I Do’s” in place of the vows which appear in the standard ceremony) First alternative vows:

Please join hands and repeat after me: __________________, I take you as my wife/husband/partner. I pledge to share my life openly with you, to speak the truth to you in love; I promise to honor and tenderly care for you, to cherish and encourage your own fulfillment through all the changes of our lives.

Second alternative vows:

___________, I take you as my wife/husband/partner, to laugh with you in joy, to grieve with you in sorrow, and to grow with you in love.

Here are two gay wedding ring ceremonies you can choose from. The first one includes a general blessing for your rings. The second wedding ring ceremony comes from the Book of Common Prayer. In this version, bride and groom hold their rings close together, the wedding officiant places a hand over both rings and offers a prayer for the rings and they who wear them. For more ideas on same-sex marriage and commitment rings, visit:

If either partner has both an engagement ring and a wedding band, you can meld them together before the ceremony. If they are still separate on your wedding day, put the engagement ring on your right finger if possible so that the wedding band can go closest to your heart. You can put the engagement ring over the wedding band later.

If one of you works with your hands, sometimes it is not practical to have a wedding band. Some people like to have a wedding band anyway for special occasions, but if it’s safer not to wear it at work, that is fine. And some people just hate wearing any kind of jewelry!


bright-gold-wedding-ringsIn a renewal of wedding or commitment vows, you may remove your rings for the ceremony. Some people never want to take their rings off, even for the ceremony. The rings can still be blessed while wearing them, and the ring ceremony can be slightly modified for you both to say, “This ring I have given you remains a pledge of my love and a symbol of our unity.”

What tokens of your love and devotion do you have to offer one another? {These Rings/This Ring}

May these rings be blessed as a symbol of this affectionate unity. Your two lives are being joined today in one unbroken circle. Wherever you go, may you always return to one another in your togetherness. May you find in one another the love for which all men and women yearn. May you grow in understanding and compassion. May the home which you establish together be such a place of sanctuary that all who are here today and others through the years will find there true friends. May these rings, soon to be on your fingers, symbolize the touch of the spirit of love that is in both your hearts. _______________, in placing the ring on ___________________’s left hand, please repeat after me: ____________________, I give you this ring as a pledge of my love, and as a symbol of our unity.

Alternative: Let us pray. Bless O Lord these rings, that they who wear them may abide in Thy peace, and continue in Thy favor unto their life’s end, through Jesus Chris our Lord, Amen.

___________, in placing this ring on __________’s finger, please repeat after me: With this ring I thee wed, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen

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