ABOUT REVS. CHRIS & KAREN MOHR MINISTER/OFFICIANT FOR YOUR WEDDING CEREMONY
If you are looking for a LGBTQ-friendly nondenominational minister or wedding ceremony officiant for your wedding/commitment ceremony, Revs. Chris or Karen Mohr and others are all available to perform weddings for you. They have performed hundreds of weddings for people of all faiths and orientations at dozens of wedding sites. We’ll have a free one-on-one visit, go over our wedding ceremony samples, and use our years of experience to help create the marriage ceremony of your dreams. You may also want to make additions, changes or even design your own unique ceremony. These LBGTQ-friendly, warm, caring ministers will be happy to discuss your plans with you prior to your wedding and even show you how to budget a wedding. In addition, they are happy to answer any questions you may have.
As ministers we have all done volunteer work at hospitals, hospices, drug crisis centers and/or prisons. We’ve performed baptisms and funerals as well as weddings. These experiences have helped make us compassionate, caring, and grateful for the opportunity to share in such a joyous event as yours! We have a sense of humor but we promise not to try to be comedians or be irreverent on your wedding day. All of us have been in our ministry for at least a decade. We are happy to share our wedding ceremonies and ideas with you!
AMERICA GROWING UP, OPENING UP
By Rev Chris Mohr
I’m in my 60s now, so I remember in the early 1960’s watching TV footage of Negroes getting their heads bashed in and pregnant black women being hosed to the ground. “Mommy, why are they doing that to those people? They’re just walking around holding signs!” Some people hate Negroes for having dark skin, Mom replied. “How can you hate someone just because they have dark skin?” I asked in astonished disbelief. As a kid I didn’t know that in 1957 only 4% of Americans, north and south, approved of interracial marriage!
In high school I saw the birth of the women’s movement, both on TV and among some of the girls in my classes. I was equally astonished that there were actually people who opposed equal rights for women.
In 1979, I was ordained a minister and performed the first of hundreds of LGBTQ weddings I’ve done. I was at a party talking with a Unitarian minister and told him I had just performed my first gay wedding earlier that day. “You can’t, the state doesn’t recognize gay marriage so we can’t perform gay weddings until they get legal acceptance!” By now I was 26 years old, but I felt the same astonished disbelief I felt as a kid watching blacks get beaten for carrying signs around. “Hey, ministers have been around for thousands of years. The government can’t stop us from performing a ceremony solemnizing the love of a gay couple!”
1953 was an amazing time to be born! I have seen real progress in civil rights, in women’s rights, even in gay rights. When was it that I heard most comedians stop making anti-gay jokes? When did gay characters start populating our TV screens in nonstereotyped ways? When did the AMA stop treating homosexuality as a disease? Now an American president has come out in favor of same sex marriage. Even the aged Dr. Robert Spitzer has publicly apologized for the harm he caused when pioneering “reparative therapy” to “cure” gays and lesbians. And in June of 2015, the U.S. Supreme Court finally made marriage equality the law of the land.
Did you ever read Dan Savage’s story of going to the marriage license office and being refused a license for himself and his gay partner? At the same time, a lesbian couple was trying to apply and was also refused. Dan asked, “Could Amy and I get a marriage license, even though Amy’s a lesbian and lives with her girlfriend? Amy and I don’t live together, we don’t plan to have kids together, and we’re going to go on living and sleeping with our same-sex partners after we get married. Could we still get a marriage license?” “Sure,” the clerk said, “If you’ve got $54, you can have a marriage license.” If this is how some members of our society think we are protecting the “sanctity of marriage” at the legal level, I have to laugh out loud. Some day, society will cringe at the way we have treated the LGBTQ community, just as we cringe today when we contemplate the abuses of blacks before and during the civil rights days.
I have lived long enough to see enormous shifts in cultural attitudes towards blacks, towards women, towards gays. In the quarter-century or more of life remaining to me, I fully expect to see ever-increasing acceptance of same sex marriage. In 1979, when I did an interracial marriage, it seemed like a pretty big deal, an act of courage. I barely give it a second thought now. In the samed year, when I performed my first gay marriage, it was considered extremely radical, even by that Unitarian minister. Now, it is accepted by our President, the Supreme Court and many mainstream churches. Marriage is finally the right of every loving couple who wants it. I am proud and happy to be on the right side of history, performing gay weddings that have the full recognition they deserve from the people who matter, and I look forward to the day when I barely give LGBTQ marriage ceremonies a second thought either!
Rev Chris Mohr